It's pretty much bred into us that our purpose in life, is to take care of everyone else first, and if there is time, maybe you can go pee. When my first daughter was born, I realized that peeing was now a luxury. She was very small when we were released from the hospital- 5lbs 1oz, and was incredibly jaundice. SO jaundice in fact, that all day-I sat on the couch-trying-to nurse her. She would eat for 45-60 seconds at a time, and I would tickle her feet, poke her cheek, ect, trying to wake her up to eat for another 45 seconds- ALL DAY. This was my life for a straight 4 weeks. Until we had to go to the Children's Hospital, because she was STILL jaundice at a month old. It was after that, that I "caved" and started alternating formula bottles, and nursing. I'm trying to think of a time that I felt more guilty.... I can't. I wasn't being a "good mom". It was splattered everywhere that "breast is best", and I was a failure. But I had to pee. I couldn't sit on the damn couch with my shirt open all day anymore! And at that moment, my life began to change......
I still think that breastfeeding is a great choice-IF you can do it. It's not for everyone. It's HARD. No one told me how freaking hard it would be! I got mastitis after we got out of the Children's Hospital, and ended up in the hospital that night, with a fever of 106F-the worst the hospital had ever seen. (at 108F, you're brain dead.) I was on IV antibiotics and Tylenol 3-literally every hour and 1/2- for seven days. Why am I telling you this? Because breastfeeding is a touchy subject...and I know people will be pissed about my opinion- so I want to put it out there, that I've been through the worst, but also the best of it. So I don't want emails about how it IS best, and that I shouldn't tell people not to, or vice versa....I'm NOT telling you that you should or shouldn't, but I DO tell my friends who are expecting that I think they should at least TRY. It's easy for some, and hell for others.
I was poor as dirt when I had my first newborn, and had maybe 2 or 3 nursing tops, so I often ended up in a regular shirt, and had to lift it up. Ewww. Mummy tummy in public...not a good colour on me. So-if YOU are expecting, or have a small baby that you are nursing-button downs are your best friend. (PS-invest in a GOOD nursing cover. They rock. I just found this one, and if I have another baby one day-hahaha!-I will buy 2 of these: http://gritsembroidery.com/catalog/product_info.php?products_id=34)
(Ooooh-a tip for planning ahead for a baby-go to maternity stores when you are at the beginning of your 9 month adventure, and hit the sale rack. There will probably be something on sale for the season you're baby will be born in. )
Now, back to the bandanas. Please stop. There is NO way to wear them that looks good. I wear a bandana-under my helmet, when I am snowboarding, or riding a Harley. It is STRICTLY to keep my hair out of my eyes. One time I threw a bandana on-hairband style when I was cleaning, and then looked in the mirror and saw this:
So I haven't worn it again. What if my purolator guy came? Hahaha. I'm joking. I don't care what I look like when I clean...but if I don't look like a mess, I find that cleaning isn't as dreaded as usual. (look good=feel good thing...)
Ok, so I guess the point I'm trying to get to, is this:
- You aren't helping anyone if you don't take care of yourself first. HOW in the world can you be the best mom, if you aren't being the best YOU? (oooh, that was good. ;)
- Have you seen the SNL "Mom Jeans" skit? If not, go to you tube and find it. "Mom Jeans-because she's not a woman anymore-she's a mom!" I laughed so hard, and still laugh when I see it.
- You aren't setting a good example for your children. Your daughters will try to continue the cycle, and will feel the same resentment, loneliness, and exhaustion. Your sons, will expect their wives to be like you, and he and his wife will fight, and he will say, "Well, my mom did it like this", and then your future daughter-in-law will seek out the nearest voo-doo doctor, and curse you.